Author Archives: Busayo Disu

The older I become, the less interested I am in winning arguments. I am now much more interested in understanding people. Ironically, that realization has made me reflect on something uncomfortable: almost every meaningful relationship that has quietly faded from my life seems to have followed one of two patterns. The first is this. WhenContinueContinue reading “The Relationship Killer No One Talks About”

I don’t think there is anyone on earth who has not been deeply impacted by pain. Not necessarily the dramatic kind that makes headlines or the stories of abuse, violence, loss, or betrayal. I mean the quieter wounds too…the ones that settle into us unnoticed. A child who was laughed at when they tried toContinueContinue reading “The Invisible Baggage We All Carry”

There was a time I believed something that seemed simple about relationships. If I show up for you, you should show up for me. It felt fair and logical. A kind of emotional symmetry. But lately, I’ve been sitting with a question that feels far less simple: What if that mindset, though well-intentioned, is quietlyContinueContinue reading “Expectations in Relationships: Where do we draw the line?”

A reflective journey of immigration, culture, and identity; exploring how cultural awareness can transform misunderstanding into empathy

Lately, I have been pondering on what life is really all about. Every news of death that I receive makes an indelible impact on my mind but none has got me searching deep about the essence of life like that of Ibidun Ighodalo ( a Nigerian female philantropist who died of cardiac arrest on theContinueContinue reading “The most valuable possession”

I like to define mental wellbeing as the state of having the emotional and psychological capacity to make positive choices at every point in time. Our inherent need for long-lasting inner peace is usually met when we are able to consistently act in ways that are healthy for us and our environment (the people andContinueContinue reading “3 Tools for Mental Wellbeing”

According to the World Health Organization, more than 700,000 people die by suicide every year. This works out to one person every 40 seconds, which is twice the number of those who die as a result of homicide. Suicide is one of the leading causes of death, especially in young people. Now, more than everContinueContinue reading “How Self-Prioritization Failed Me.”

I view life as a journey between two mountain peaks. As children, we are quickly initiated into a self-conscious mindset before the formation of our earliest memories, as we learn from our peers, and the significant adults in our lives. From a young age, we are exposed to the use of possessive pronouns, such as:ContinueContinue reading “A Life of Two Mountains.”

I have been struggling so hard to practice what I know about parenting. I can’t seem to let go of my cares about my children. They say yelling and spanking do not change kids. They only suppress their bad behaviours. But what do I do in situations when my child repeatedly chooses to do whatContinueContinue reading “When parenting feels so daunting….”